Martin Hesterberg
Psychologist and couple therapist
Communication - conflict resolution - collaboration - trust
Mediation - Love - Divorce - Therapy - Support - Family - Lonely
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Couple therapy reasons
In most relationships, no matter how stable they are, there are difficult phases and crisis situations in which the partners have the feeling that they cannot find a solution on their own. The crises can be: • Inexplicable and recurring emotional outbursts in relationships • Unsolvable conflicts and partnership problems • Separation, power struggles and separation plans • Jealousy, fear of dependency and loss • Unfulfilled sexuality and frustration Couple relationships are often mirrors and scenes of personal and unconscious conflicts. Escalating feelings, emotional entanglements and often completely blocked emotional states can determine the relationship experience and everyday relationship life. What we experience in relationships is always an expression of our self-relationship. We encounter unconscious expectations, programs and learned behaviors from our past in our counterparts. Relationship conflicts are therefore always an opportunity for personal development, partnership development and self-knowledge.
Couple therapy: goals
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The goals of couples therapy are set at the beginning based on a couple-specific focus formulation. The goals can be: • Increasing the ability to love and have relationships • Awareness of one's own needs • Individuation in relationship • Increasing sexual experience Cooperative love, fulfilling relationships and a lively sexuality are the results of a maturation process. In order to get there it is necessary to deal with the areas of your own personality, that are addressed through the depth of an intimate relationship. Self-confrontation and the willingness to face one's own fears and unloved parts are an important part of this process.
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Couple therapy: duration
The five-session sequences, spaced 1 to 4 weeks apart, have proven to be effective. After each sequence, the results are discussed together and it is
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Mediation for couples
In contrast to couple therapy, mediation primarily aims at reaching an agreement and not directly at the development of the partnership. Nevertheless, mediation and the clarity it creates can be an important element in putting the relationship on safe ground and strengthening it. Because the emotional connection also needs an external framework - and this needs to be consciously clarified and negotiated. In the area of couple relationships, separation and divorce mediation as well as all conflicts relating to parenthood and children are often the subject of mediation. In some cases, they are also ordered by courts in order to promote an amicable agreement in the best interests of the child. Experience shows that this can avoid escalations can be contained - even if lawyers have already been appointed. Mediation can also be helpful as a tool for shaping partnerships, when sharing childcare between working parents.
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Individual coaching
The personal reasons can be very diverse and usually include personal challenges in a private context, family-related or relating to one's own development. These can be, for example, conflicts in the private environment, relationship issues, dissatisfaction with one's own life situation or the feeling of experiencing a blockage or of feeling strong resistance on a certain topic and not being able to overcome it. Topics such as work-life balance, excessive demands or career development, uncertainty, ambiguity, decision-making problems or even physical symptoms often play a role. Other topics could be, for example: • Unable to achieve goals • Money worries • Changing jobs • Dealing with your own patterns • Finding meaning/purpose • Looking for a partner • Conflicts in family or friends • Coping with loss or illness • Dealing with restrictions • Life changes and personal transformation
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Legal and disclaimer
A consultation with me is strictly confidential. I am subject to confidentiality, which begins when you contact me and does not end after the consultation has ended. If I am in danger of endangering myself or others, I am legally obliged to IMMEDIATELY take appropriate measures to avert danger; these include, for example, the police/fire department or the social psychiatric service or similar. to notify. My offer cannot replace psychiatric or psychotherapeutic diagnosis or treatment. The term therapy used on my website is not used as psychotherapy in the legal sense (cf. Psychotherapist Act: PsychThG), but describes a shorter or longer professional and specialized therapeutic consultation, or a consultation and support process. None of my offers and methods relieve the user of the obligation to find out about their suitability and, if in doubt, to also obtain a (specialist) medical, psychotherapeutic or psychiatric opinion. Are you already receiving psychiatric/psychotherapeutic or specialist treatment? Then please discuss with your therapist/doctor in advance whether advice from me would be considered compatible and useful. I exclude liability for all of my services (legally and financially), unless willful intent or gross negligence can be asserted. You use my advisory services at your own risk.
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